This is a photo of me looking out at the water—and daydreaming, no doubt. This pool was the largest body of water I knew of at this age. Later, I’d swim in rivers (mostly), lakes, and even quarries. I was ten before I ever saw an ocean
When I was a child I wanted to be a pirate. Children that grow up in the mountains, like me, have romantic ideas about the sea and those connected to it. My parents wanted me to go to college. From the day was born, they put money away for my education. Although there are clown colleges and Mafia apprenticeships; license requirements for bounty hunters and snake milkers, there is no Pirate Prep.
My father wanted to be a sailor. He joined the Navy, but he was stationed in Cleveland. It’s my good fortune that he gave up his dream, went roller skating, and met my mother. I’m not sure my mother had time to dream. Her father died and she had to quit school, go to work, and help raise three younger siblings. She cut hair for a while and then she became a “homemaker,” which is historically a highly revered occupation in China—so I’ve been told.
Later in life, I learned that I was prone to sea-sickness. I should have known this because I also suffered from car-sickness. Perhaps I’m not devious enough to be a pirate anyway. Some things were never meant to be.
I’ve had many jobs: babysitter, sales girl, factory worker, waitress, social worker, office assistant, teaching assistant, teacher, tribal art cataloger (I did make some use of my education). I’ve even been paid for some of my fantasies—as a writer. Ultimately, I became a mother—insert bragging. Insert quirky stories about otherwise clever, hard-working, endearing children and grands, stories that prove they’re human and occasionally fallible. Surprisingly, this was my most successful undertaking.
I can not take complete credit for their successes. There were teachers, friends and relatives with positive influence and my husband, Howie. I will take credit for their sense-of-humor but, honestly, I think I’ve learned more from them than all my education, jobs and experience.
When a grown-up asks a child what she wants to be when she grows up, she can’t say “a pirate.” Sometimes I’d say “wise.” I didn’t think to say “happy,” but even in the worst of times, I am —though a bit guilty about it. Arrrrr…

This is the way it begins:
Daylight appears without introduction. A faintness seeps between concrete monoliths. The morning rumble is unleashed. A distant siren weeps and dogs stir.
The heavy covers are warm and I have no urgent reason to rise—except I do.
The list rests on my night table. Pleasant dreams are forgotten; nightmares pollute the temper of the day. I do the slow exercise of standing, dressing, breakfast. I make the bed, brush my teeth, tidy up.
Anxiety evolves.
I sit, not for meaningful work, but to settle pending affairs. The everyday clutter of life should be simple. It used to be.
I’m surrounded by people who’s job is not to answer the phone for me. A digital assistant informs me, “We have no record of that account.” “Sorry, I do not understand your question.”“Please stay on the line. We value your patronage. You are number ninety-seven on our wait list. If you don’t wish to wait, leave your number and we will call you back.”
They never do.
“Take advantage of our easy-to-use. website.”
The site is un-navigable and contains a “help chat” that is cheerful but useless.
When I make contact with a human, I’m sent from department to department. Managers are baffled by my issue. Time runs out. The problem remains unresolved.
Weary and restless, I walk out in the crisp air where bicycles taunt, and the unfortunate remind me of my pettiness and inability to complete simple tasks. Undaunted, I purchase a “gourmet” salad for lunch in celebration of new resolve. I hurry home where fresh and persistent frustrations await. I scroll through 279 emails and delete, unsubscribe, report junk. That, at least, should be satisfying.
It’s not.
I attempt to create a nutritious and engaging evening meal with an indifferent oven, and a mother’s no-fail recipe baked in her prize pan. Despite the power of Mother invoked, I do not succeed.
I attempt to compose a few email pleas that will impress overseers of government and commerce. Expectation wanes in the moonlight.
Ice cream is my solace, peanut butter fudge sauce, chocolate chips, a scattering of nuts as homage to health.
I shower and settle in for cozy tv mysteries, featuring renowned character actors with with accents I only partially understand. I may occasionally doze.
Creativity is squandered on providing missing narrative.

This is the way it ends:
Suspense is spoiled by awareness that a version of this day will repeat itself tomorrow. The killer/spy/thief is rarely who was expected and if it is, disappointment ensues.
I’s time to enjoy uneven sleep until morning sun…
or not.

Lost summer days pass quickly. 

And I don’t mean that in a good way. 

Three knotty problems loomed over resolve:  a snarled legal issue, a dull insurance matter, and impending credit card fraud. None of these could be handled over the internet (as recommended). Phone calls were made, transfers achieved, information foraged and checked, rechecked. Passwords were changed, codes sent, emails confirmed. In between we made our way to the grocery store, assembled food, partook of caffeine, and took naps. All the while workmen drilled and hammered on the outer wall of our dwelling in order to comply with “Local law 11.”

Days like this seem to occur more often. I’m told to reduce stress—the gods are amused. Exercise is difficult amidst workmen, extreme heat, and harmful air quality. Meditation? The monkey brain says “no, just no.” Television is a frightening mix of grim news and dark storytelling. Books, my old reliable escape, become problematic distractions under duress.

Comfort and ease are elusive. Surprise has taken on a dire aspect.

Where is the celebratory cake? 

The found money? 

The message from a long lost friend?

I take solace in the fact that my white Keds came (somewhat) clean in the washing machine, as recommended by YouTube. That my glasses have been found despite the fact that they now fall off my face when I look down because my husband mistakenly wore them. That a neighborhood butcher sets aside generous bags of dried hibiscus for tea, and sells them at an affordable price; and that I have a neighbor good enough to pass along that secret.

The bowls that I eat out of when I’m gloomy are handmade and glazed with subtle colors amidst confusion. They make me feel secure and hopeful. The world revolves in chaos about these small works of art and rids my thoughts of all, save sense of taste and satisfying tactile feel of their irregular surface and heft.